On Human Sexuality

 On Human Sexuality

April 26, 2026

Just saw once again a TV Allstate ad in which two young people who want to spend time together don’t because her family roots for North Carolina and he roots for Duke. I mean, how stupid can you get? I thought: Two young people want to spend time together. That’s a good thing. Will they go somewhere and have sex? Well, as long is the sex is consensual and done safely, what’s wrong with that? Sorry Christian tradition. You have handled human sexuality so badly that all I can do is reject nearly everything you’ve ever had to say about it and adopt an ethic based love that doesn’t say sex is inherently sinful. It’s not. It can be one of life’s greatest joys. We are, after all, sexual people. That’s how God created us. Yes, sex has to do with reproduction, but there is a whole lot more to human sexuality than that. It is physically more pleasurable than anything else; but, beyond that, it is the most intimate thing two people can do together. It can bring two people closer together better than anything else can. Yes, it is emotionally fraught. It can be and far too often is abused, used for harm rather than for good. But that doesn’t make sex inherently sinful. It isn’t. Misuse of it it, but all kinds of things that are good can be misused for evil. Sex is not unique in that regard. Christianity has for so long seen sex as something inherently evil, something the church has to control and limit, something people really shouldn’t want to do except with a marriage between one woman and one man. In other words, Christianity has for ages, perhaps always, so gotten human sexuality all wrong, that we really do need to reject traditional Christian sexual dogma and get real about what human sexuality really is and about the constructive role it can play in people’s lives beyond the very narrow context in which Christianity has said it’s morally permissible.