Saturday, December 9, 2023

The Grace of Not Knowing

 

The Grace of Not Knowing

Team A will win the Super Bowl. Team B will win the collegiate championship. Player C will win the Heisman. Politician T will win the presidency. (Lord how I hope this one isn’t true!) Politician D will become our state’s governor. The economy will crash next year. The economy will thrive next year. I will win the lottery. I will get that job I want. I won’t get that job I want. We hear it again and again. We say it to ourselves again and again. Sportscasters and news anchorpersons make a living at it. Americans, it seems, have to know what is going to happen before it happens. We don’t like not knowing the future. We don’t like it in our national life. We don’t like it in our personal lives. We’re desperate for someone to tell us what will happen. We Americans are, it seems, fixated on knowing that which cannot be known.

Actually, we Americans aren’t alone in that fixation. Disliking not knowing is one of the foundation pieces of western culture. I once heard Isaiah Berlin, the great Russian/British historian/philosopher, put it this way. Western culture is founded upon three defining beliefs. They are:

1.      Every question has an answer.

2.      Every question has only one correct answer.

3.      It is possible for us to know that answer.

Berlin said our culture rests upon those assumptions, and I think he was right. It’s not true of every single American individual of course, but it is true of most of us. We think we can know the one correct answer to every question, and we’re very uncomfortable with not knowing that answer.

Berlin’s three foundational pieces of western culture may indeed be foundational pieces of our culture. I believe that they are. There is, however, a big problem with all of them. They all rest upon a false assumption, as I am sure Berlin knew. They all deny fundamental facts about what it is to be human. The truth is that there are questions that don’t have an answer. There are questions that have more than one correct answer. There are questions that have one or more than one correct answers, but we simply can’t know those answers. We don’t much like these truths. They are truths nonetheless.[1]

Our mania for knowing what will happen that hasn’t happened yet contradicts those truths. It is a truth of the human condition that we cannot know what will happen in the future. Albert Einstein famously said that the only reason for time is so everything doesn’t happen at once. Everything doesn’t happen at once of course. It is an unavoidable truth of being human that we live only in the present. We can remember past events more or less accurately, but we are not living those events as we remember them. We can remember them because they happened once, but they are not happening now. We couldn’t remember them if they hadn’t happened.

Therein lies the problem with knowing the future. It hasn’t happened yet. We live only in the present, and what will happen in the future is not part of our present. Seeking to know the future is like seeking to remember a past event that never happened. You can’t remember anything that didn’t take place. What will take place is as much nothing to know as is something in the past that never occurred. We can only know what has happened. We can’t know anything that hasn’t happened, and the future hasn’t happened. It will, or at least we trust that it will happen; but it hasn’t happened yet. Therefore, we simply cannot know what it will be.

Though few Americas recognize it, there is a grace in not knowing the future. Or at least there’s a grace in giving up our passion for knowing the unknowable future. The truth is that the present is all we have. We had things in the past, but we all live our whole lives only in the present moment. When we realize that the present moment is all we have or ever will have, we can focus exclusively on living that moment as fully as we can. We can be present to the present. We can give up being sidetracked from the present into fretting about the future or seeking to live in our past. Some Asian spiritual traditions understand the value of living only in the present better than most of us in the West do. The Buddhist practice of meditation brings the practitioner fully into the present. Being present to the present improves living in the present. Being mindful of one’s present enriches one’s life. It makes living in the present more peaceful and often more productive. Living only in the present is a great gift we can give ourselves.

I don’t mean to say don’t plan for your future. Some planning for the future is essential for all of us. Preparing for an adequate income in retirement is a good example of the need for some future planning. But even as we prepare for the future, we do it in the present. We cannot know if we will ever use whatever it is have planned for the future. Will I in fact live long enough to need a retirement income? Personally, I already have; but as I did whatever little bit of planning for retirement I did during my working years, I did not and could not know if that would be the case. Our need to plan for the future does not contradict the truth that we cannot know the future.

I know, of course, that I have no significant way to influence the course of western civilization. It is what it is. Yet each of us can become more aware than we usually are of how that culture conditions our thinking and our lives. We can recognize our culture’s shortcomings. Our mania for knowing the future is one of those shortcomings. It’s way past time for us to get over it.



[1] I will concede that there is at least one thing that we know will happen in the future. We’ll all die. Dying is part of being human, and none of us avoids it. For most of our lives anyway we don’t know when or how we will die. We just know that we will.

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